Nov 9, 2009

Ours

She's 5.5 and the apple of our eyes.

Nov 3, 2009

Company

October is both birthday and spring month. Birthday numero 39 was fabby and spring has been sunblock-worthy and BBQ welcoming. Friends are coming and going in thick waves ... winter can be so secluded. I'm supposed to be preparing for a work phone call with a potential client right now, so shall keep this post brief and just mention that our company of late has been high-end: let the summer roll on!! xxD









Oct 18, 2009

All' Alba

Tonight I'm scooting and scrolling about the net. Our fresh 14 week old fetus has abducted my fingers, toes, nose and tongue in order to make its own. My heart is fuller than ever and my arse concurs in fullness. A friend commented on my full 'rack' 2 days ago. I'm all full heart, arse and rack these days. Comical and true. I think the all day morning sickness has given me the day off today.

Having little R has shown me that we become our children as much as they become like us. I've inherited more from her than she has me. I wonder if new baby's weightless watery and flexible bubble feels like how I've been feeling. Am I mirroring baby's sense of space with this odd groundless sensation? Time has stopped, front, back, up and sideways have been too hard to differentiate. One small movement causes perpetual motion of my waters. My vestibular works are all cocked up. In short: I've been infiltrated by a fake sea sickness laced with a fake chronic hang over that makes me feel like I don't know where I am any more.

Pregnancy strips quietly, not just physically. Actually one way I can put up with this 1st trimester oddness is due to how bloody liberating pregnancy is, emotionally. The pay-off isn't just the potential of a new family member. It's self-altering, kind of how the death works. It forces you to give up the trite shite and let the big stuff wash over. It smacks you in the gob while shouting "Get the fuck over yourself, will ya!!!". Nature can be a real snippy bitch sometimes.

Today while sitting quietly I felt another wave of letting go. There's still lots more to come but today a newer and surer sense of letting nature take its pathway came; I threw my internal arms up in the air and said "Fucking hell, how could anyone think having children is burdensome! It takes away the delusion of control. Come on nature, let it happen ~ I'm at your mercy!". My job here it to let it happen, no matter the outcome. Nature likes it when she doesn't have to beat you into the truth. She prefers you to work it out for yourself, like all good mothers, friends and sisters do.

I had that bitch-slapped feeling when mum died. I remember someone asking me how I felt just a few days after she died and I remember it feeling really similar to the few days following childbirth; euphoric and frightening and like I'd reduced to a thing that's less than the size of a pin prick. Birth and death are to big to battle or sway with logic. Battle money issues, sway your therapist through your mine/mind fields. Death and life won't have it. They demand we relinquish our hold. Love does this too, don't you think?

Oct 4, 2009

What am I?

* flatulence is never far
* my fingernails are uncharacteristically flaky
* I cry at beauty
* 11 am every day I get a hangover without having boozed last night
* my temper has softened
* my house is extremely messy
* I piss like a bitch
* none of my clothes fit
* I can't stop drinking long cold glasses of milk, at lightening speed
* garlic makes me feel sick
* bending over makes me feel sick
* I have a husband who is uncontrollably redecorating our house
* my relationship with the couch is close and dependable
* I can't read
* I can't jog
* I can't sauna
* I have finally accepted that I have no control over my life at all, for now yet I feel blessed beyond words

What am I?

Sep 24, 2009

Amnesis # 2

I love the extra-net. I do. I just posted my latest post about a dance film I found and liked. The director found my blog post and told me that a newer version had been posted at vimeo.: shweeeet. I get to see it and the internet gets extra internetty.

(Again, if you want to watch this flick, you might need to pause my playlist that lives in just to the right.)

Dance on screen thrills me. I adore it. It's little known, appreciated and loved~ I heart all 3.
I hope you enjoy this too. Some dance films get all dancey-shmancy on my arse, which is ok yet testing. This flick is easy: a little bit of clear narrative, little bit of abstract notion, very pretty, teenie bit confronting, fractionally uncomfortable, beautiful, dancey not shmancy. I also like that the dancer smiles and that his character taught me a little something about men that I hadn't known before. I want to know who wrote it, if written? I love that dance film may or may not take a traditional film process. I was left with questions that don't have answers and I'm happy for my imagination to fill in the gaps that the film made. Nice.

From Simon Ellis, Director / Choreographer: "All our will, our wishes, our hope cannot stop this."

"Anamnesis visits the volatility of memory within the mind of an elderly woman. It considers aging and loss, and the ways in which dancing or movement is remembered and forgotten. How is it that humans might carry relationships through time?"

In the film, the artists—Cormac Lally (videography), David Corbet (sound), Bagryana Popov (dramaturgy) and Simon Ellis (direction/choreography)—seek to represent the biographical confusion and uncertainty of the woman (performed by Liz Jones) as the arc of the film becomes increasingly lucid.

Anamnesis from dc on Vimeo.



Thanks Simon!

Anamnesis, dance film by Simon Ellis ~ I like it.

Found this dance film a few months ago and watched it again today. I like it, a lot. To view it you might need to turn off my music playlist to the right: press pause.

From the director's blog: "Anamnesis is a screendance (dance film) project by Cormac Lally (videography/editing), David Corbet (sound), Bagryana Popov (choreography, dramaturgy) and Simon Ellis (direction, performance). The film visits the volatility of memory within the mind of an elderly woman."

anamnesis - latest draft from ske on Vimeo.

Sep 23, 2009

Miotto Love Jobs

Just about to start teaching a new round of classes. Yum. I love it. It's my love-job. My dad used to build BBQs and chimneys as his love-job. Hopefully one day I'll be as good as teaching yoga as he was at building fire holders. He used to say that he was so good at building brilliant burning chimneys and BBQs that if your wife were to stand too close to them, they would rip her pants off on account of the drawing up of air in the structure; undie suckers! What a guy, old Luigi Mose Miotto! Couldn't read or write but could whip off a ladies dacks at a BBQ without putting down his beer. Perfectly Italian.

Sep 8, 2009

Hilbarn: boxes of local grown veg!! Yipee!

Sitting here, feeling very yuzzy. Got a thrill! Came from Loz and Dinny. Cheers G!!
Here is is. A beaut. Made the yuzzies fuzz away for a moment. Hilbarn, Sharing the Love of Tasmanian Produce ~ bless 'em.
I'm going to pee myself when my box arrives. I am.

Sep 3, 2009

Our New Website

We just finished this, our new website: Brownbread and Butter Studio. I like it. I like it. We've been like the carpenter's family who have no kitchen cupboards. It's silly to think how long we've gone without a site and we build the buggers.

There's a storm brewing outside and Finley Quaye is playing loud in the lounge. Shweet wet Thursday eve. Finley and storm match.

Jul 28, 2009

Blue

From time to time I write about my mum's death here, and less often I write in a Word document on my desktop. In case you're reading here for the first time (context matters, right?): mum died very close to three years ago from an intentional morphine overdose. Needless. With needles.

The journey, for her (by her I mean her enduring memory, her legacy etc) and for us has been a torrid affair of the heart and soul. I know little about the Hows and Whys of her death, and her life, come to think of it. I used to thing that I understood it all, to a fine point. Not now. Of late, her death, her life, my life with her has become a whole catalogue of details that amount to only one reasonable item that I'd be prepared to put my money on. Less is more. The more I know, the less I know. The little I know is enough. I've stopped trying to understand.

I had a 'mum moment' on the bus a few weeks ago. J and R and I were leaving Tokyo after a bloody top rate holiday and I was sitting alone watching the road descend from the present to the immediate past; I love watching the road roll. I glanced up to see myself in the driver's rear vision mirror and I looked alive and happy.

Out of the blue I saw my mum's eyes in my mind. Just her eyes. They weren't still. They gazed at me but they were animated with her nature. Alive she had really strong black eyebrows and the bluest of blues. She had child eyes. You know the ones, those rare gems? That particular variety of eye is a beauty that everyone can see; child, adult, animal. Shape, size and colour don't matter; ideals of beauty don't count with the eyes. Hers were beautiful in shape and colour but most defining though was the child-likeness in them. I sat on the bus, rolling road, family to my left and watched her eyes. I was cautious at first.

When my caution burst, so did my own eyes. I sobbed. Sobbed. Painless sob. Relief.
The best thing about this vision of mum's blues is that even now, I only have to offer myself to see them some more, and there they are. I'm without conflict about these peepers. They are the real McCoy. In fact, I can see them now.

Without pain, without confusion, without suffering I've found my mother's blues and they're without pain confusion, suffering and most importantly judgment.

I don't know what this story means. I only know that I worry less for her and I feel a little freer.

Slip of Quill

Tonight I drew a slice of cake and it looked like a rodent dressed in a box. This wasn't an unhappy moment. Luckily I don't intend to become an artist ~ else I'd be fucked.

Jul 27, 2009

Sometimes I Stop

Just like that, sometimes I stop. Then I go again, inevitably, but when I'm stopped I can't imagine how it might feel to go again.

What stops? My mind and my actions; they stop.

What was I saying?
Yawn.
Stop.
(See what I mean?).

Jul 26, 2009

Japan MIx












Jul 21, 2009

Translation, Transgression & Transformation

Before having Rita I traveled lots, maybe too much for my mental health. Loads of travel kept me slippery and pointless in the present moment. I never really committed to anywhere, anyone or anything because I always had the undercurrent of travel threatening to move me. As I type I can read that I've giving the travel bug a bad slant in this post. Perhaps that's because still I feel that undercurrent's presence. Somehow I expected it to leave me. I haven't yet translated it. Does its presence mean that I will always travel or that I will never have a home or that ... maybe I should buy a van? Oh, no need. Jimmy has one. Perhaps it means nothing at all. I know not what it is, I only know how travel makes me feel. It's like dancing. It's perfect, even when it hurts.

We've just come home from 3 weeks abroad and I feel renewed. I feel like myself. That's a huge call because I've been winging for yonks that I don't feel located in me.

Being a mum is bloody incredibly. I love how it forces you to transform what you knew (pre-baby) into something more, a new renovated version of what you had and held as knowledge and habit. I often wonder if women redecorate and renovate their environments with a certain vigour when they have children because internally they are in a constant challenging state of spiritual and mental redecoration and renovation of the self. I feel that way anyway. Becoming a mother has slowly changed me completely. Renovation and home decoration can become a pathology, perhaps.

A good and easy example the forced change that comes to me with motherhood is travel. How I travelled before being a mum is extremely un-okay for child travel companions. I never knew what I was doing. I would go wherever with whomever and land somehow on my feet after a significant free-fall through what seemed reasonable at that time, in that space. Transgressions came and went. I was safe and happy. I love how travel creates its own punctuation marks in the narrative of your life. No forcing, moments just happen and cease. You go on a journey. And then it ends. It changes you. A full stop becomes an exclamation mark without any effort. I love that. Regular life chapters feels much more laboured and difficult to scribe.

Now, though, I'm a traveller again. But this time in a wee team: hubby and child and me.

I'm learning all over again how to do this thing that I'd pretty much moulded into my own shape. It took me years of experience to make my journeys mine. Now they're ours.It's still going to take some time till I adjust to group travel mode. Last OS trip I was in constant struggle. There were some pretty huge question marks flying at us on that trip, but they became full stops and eventually new chapters ... but they were struggle and then they became peace.

Best of all, while in Tokyo, came a moment when I looked at James and Rita and felt that this was my best journey ever. I remember many times in the past while travelling that I wished that I was with a partner and our child. Lone travel is lone. It's a ball and it's wild and fun, but it's lone.

So, now I'm learning how to travel boldly again, but small steps this time, there's a child on board. Japan wasn't especially adventurous; in ways it was. It was extremely good fun. It was transforming. We did good. It was celebratory.

I love tripping (and falling).

Jul 20, 2009

Tokyo Hoop

Babe teaching herself the wonders of La Hoop in Tokyo.
Beautie!

Jul 13, 2009

Now is Good





Fuck Fuji, I'm Going to Disney Land!

>>> am I crazed? No. I'm a mum- same same but different, kind of.

Gazing out the window of a very cheap and very nasty eatery today I thought to myself 'Self, long time no talk. Havent we had a ball on this holiday? (Shit yes). And Self, remember when you lived here and grown adults would tell you that they were going to Tokyo Disney Land for the day ... and you would wonder in your deep self, Self, how it could be that anyone would want to spend well earned yen on such an idiotic and infantile activity ... do you remember, Self? (Oh, I do remember). And, Self, how exactly do you feel that only 24 hours ago you decided to pass up the opportunity to climb Mt Fuji to instead go to Tokyo Disney?'

Then I think I burped something cheap and nasty that ended my conversation with my Self. (Abruptly ending conversations with Self is easy. She's hardly easy going, but impolite gestures barely encourage a blip on her radar. This is why she and I get along so well: it's a relationship based in guiltlessness, mutual respect for functional disrespect and a lack of awareness beyond Self and I).


PIC: Actual Wisdom, Kyoto, 2 days ago

Jul 4, 2009

Seven Minute Happiness

One of my favourite stores that sells purposeless shit ~ and in Japan, let me tell ya, they do purposeless shit to such perfect custom that it has become an art ~ is called Three Minute Happiness. I have 7 minutes to write this post.

Today we were by bike again. Perfecto!! Rita has come to call the hostel that we're staying in 'home' and she is in love with the common room. She has become it's official tea lady; making tea and coffee for all the guests with perfection and grace-full cuteness to the comparative tune of Three Minute Happiness high end purposeless item selling.

Watching her cruise the common room in her new gingham dress, serving the travellers ... gives me at least 3 to 3 million hours happiness.

I'm climbing Mt Fuji with buddy Nate on Sunday. James is worried. I'm beside myself that this long time goal is about to happen.

Ja Ne!!

Jul 3, 2009

Kyoto Sento Me Happy

I have only minutes left on my pay as you go internet @ the hostel we're in in Kyoto.
My body is heavy and mildly zingy. I got my guts up to go to the local sento. Bathing public ally in Japan is a world unto itself; a wee social micro-nation with extra rules that, like all of Japan, are invisible. Throughout most of my travels in Japan the invisible rules pass me by like a sideswiping car. In the sento, however, a collision is inevitable. This predicted discomfort is why I had to get my guts up to go. I was growled at only once. Fellow washers moved away from me only twice. So all in all, relatively speaking, it was a screaming success.

I LOVE Japanese public bathing, sentos especially. It's a challenge to sit in front of a mirror on a plastic stool looking at yourself while you lather, scrub, rinse, lather, scrub, rinse to infinity.I love that squeeky clean is dirty to the Japanese who, after scrub sequence # 50, share your bath water. Skinless is more the order than squeaky. The sauna is never mediocre, naver. It's HOT, hotter than hot. I love that the cold pool is easy to sit in after the previous sequences of hot, piping hot and boiling volcanic hot baths, all on epidermisless skin. I love that women shave their entire bodies in the sento. I love that brushing teeth for half an hour is not uncommon, I feel glee as a result of the placement of the jets in the bubble pool (either side of the neck, sacrum, mid spine, backs of knees , each place varies but the jets are smartly arranged for theraputic success).

I have one minute left.
So simply. Today after shrine wandering and bike riding and eating magnificent food, sento made my day (year).

xx
d

Jun 30, 2009

Tokyo, Week 1

I can hear frogs outside. It,s late and muggy outside. The house sleeps. Being in summer, suddenly, has been a treat for my skin, hair and general disposition. We,ve walked and walked, cycled and trained, and eaten and eaten followed by smiling loads. I love this city. It,s nearly 10 years since I arrived here for the first time ... it,s hard to believe that so much water has passed under my proverbial bridge.

My mind has been in playback from the past; the smells, old favourite things to do, past obsessions. Mostly though, I feel so lucky to be here with man and child; they love it here too. Tokyo can be so harsh, but to me it always feels so kind.

Today in Muji (oooooo, Muji, ti adoro) I picked up a stamp and asked my friend Masao what it was for. Masao told me about its use and it turned out to be one of those quirky and very cool Japanese things. J (hubby) came over and we asked him what he thought it might be. He picked up his shirt and stamped the stamp on his bare brown belly. In Australia I wouldnt have noticed this gesture, but in Japan I was instantly conscious of onlookers and mostly aware of Friend Masao. He giggled and blushed and looked at me and said * You embarressed?* I replied, Yes, but only because you are. James stood there with a WATHAFUCK YOUZ TWO ON ABOUT face. I could note that this moment was one of those You Had to Be There moments, but truth is, J was there and he didnt get it. It was a Have to Get the Nihonjin Public Sensibility moments. I loved that to me J flashing his whatsit in a store and rubbing the stamp on it was mostly a moment when past and present personal sensibilities collided. I love this place. I adore how polite the people are but the rules and the absence of breaking them is a heavy heavy phenomenon - fucking full on, mate. It goes way beyond my nature, thats for sure. Yet I love it!

Tokyo rained a day ago and the three of us got 2 bikes, one mamma bike with kid seat on handle bars. We three hit the road and it was bliss. Rita sang under her raincoat and brolly and we churned the paths with nowhere in particular to be ... it was near perfect to me to be with my Two seemingly nowhere and everywhere all at once.

We,ve had short conversations on how this trip is shifting our perspectives on our shared life back in Tassie. We tend to not talk about too much for too long. Ease prevails. However I sense an undercurrent of change being motioned toward the mouth of a new river, so to speak.

Tomorrow were off to a crazy kids place called Kidzania. All I know about it is that its got attractions for kids that are occupations and it has an open market where kids work and trade in cash and goods ... (weird). We,re going with our friends and their adorable son, Shin, who speaks the oddest English. Rita likes him muchly. Last night he played Snap for the first time. Seems that our culture does have something unique and odd to offer because Shin responded to it like it was the wildest game on earth. We also gave the kids Cherry Ripes, which they spat out (!!!! Incredulous I am!!!).

Kyoto on Wednesday. Heading for monastry accommodation in the hills.
Ja Ne!!

(sorry about the spelling ~ I cant be shagged)

D